22 People On The Song That Reminds Them Of Their Most Significant Ex
Music is easily one of the more powerful reminders ofour past. Specifically, our romantic past.
Songs can transportus back to an entire time period a stretching of a week, a few months, a few years or a single fleeting moment in a relationship.
They can build us feel wistful. Nostalgic. Hollow. Pathetic. Destroyed.And the feelingcan be absolutely suffocating.There have been moments in my life where I was so heartbroken that all it took was hearing the chorus of one songto throw off my day.
Yet one of themost cathartic things Ive done after a breakup is listen to a bunch of sungs that remind me of my exand simply weep, sometimes even in public.
Once, during the course of its dead of a wintertime snowstorm, I threw my headphones in and decided it would be greatto engage in my favorite post-breakup activitywhile walkingoutside in the freeze cold.( I the cold, soreally this move was to amplify my self-pity .) That day, my ears were ambushed by both my song selection and stinging, biting gusts ofwind. But I felt better!
Whether you avoid yoursonglike the plague, actively listen to itwhen you want to mourn, or passively notice it when itcomeson your Spotify, has a song that reminds them of their most significant ex the one who broke their heart the hardest.
Here, 22 people has demonstrated that song, plus a little bit about why it constructs them think of their ex.
Cats In The Cradle by HarryChapin
My ex was a girl called Catherine, Cat for short. My favoritesong before I gratified her, which I spent forever learning how to play on guitar( and I mean) was Cats In The Cradle by HarryChapin.
It reminded me of the relationship I shared with my father and how he worked so hard to put food on our table, but sacrificed spending time with his family in order to do so, so it was a nice to thing to hear it being played somewhere occasionally and randomly.
It reminds me of her becauseevery good memory I had of her, we would play that as our song. Before that, it was my favourite, so it seemed befitting to continue it. But now, when I hear it, it simply constructs me sick becauseultimately she cheated on me. And as good as those memories were and as much effort I put into our relationship( and learning how to play it on guitar ), something that would once gives people so much pleasure has been destroyed, leaving now a bad taste in my mouth if I hear it out or anything.
Hard Wired by Shakey Graves and Wouldnt It Be Nice by The Beach Boys
I have two that stick out. Hardwired by Shakey Graves, because we used to listen to it in his room in the mornings. Any time it comes on, I go right back to that time, even now that its been a few years.
Theres also Wouldnt It Be Nice by The Beach Boys, which he put on in the car becausehe was tired of my playlist the working day when I was driving him back to the train station. Turns out, that was the last day I ever drove him to the train; we broke up for good a few weeks later.
Show Me Love by Sam Feldt and Shivers by SG Lewis
My ex was the one who showed these ballads to me and told me they induced him think of me. We expended a day in Amsterdam only in bed listening to a bunch of our anthems on repeat.
Walking On The Moon by Cas Haley
[ This song] always takes me back to when things were easier, walking around summer nights with my ex. Kind of fast forwards me to when we had our kids together( hope my legs dont break ), and now that we are separated,[ it] simply brings it all to focus, you know? Truly tough.
By Your Side by Tenth Avenue North
I think about my most recent ex. We dated for two years. He was the one person whoI could say saved me in a way. Before him, I had an emotionally abusive boyfriend whom I felt too scared to escape. I knew the only route that would separate us was if I hit rock bottom, or if something bigger than us split us up. Something such as getting another girl pregnant.
With all the heartbreak, I went in for rebound dating, and thats where I discovered Alex[ my ex ]. I was dating his friend at the time. Someone cool, but something to take away the ache. After heand I parted styles, Alex did everything he could to get me for months. It was the chase and the patience he had for me that won me over. I had been so emotionally transgressed over my past breakup that something so good, I thought, was too good to be true.
I told myself if it was meant to be, there would be a sign. Not only was there a moment of that, but also when I was in the car the working day still being stupid and stillseeing my ex, doing all the things I shouldnt have a song I once heard that I downloaded played: By Your Side by Tenth Avenue North.
The song seemed to be about religion and kudo, but the words literally spoke to me. He had done so much to prove himself( trying to earn grace ), I was always screaming( let me lift up your face, so dont turn away ). All the words wereevery single thing I was going through. I was trying to live a life I didnt want, I was trying to ignore what was right in front of me, and that was Alex.
I wept as it played on that vehicle ride, anda couple of significant moments and that one anthem began my two-year relationship. Whenever I listen to it, it signifies a time in my life where I was brave enough to leave all the ache behind and leap. And for the first time, eventually, someone was there to catch me.
Even though it plainly didnt last, there are songs throughout the relationship that signify certain times and almost become reminders of certain events. Whenever I hear By Your Side, even after all this time, I smile because it reminded me of a day of courageousness. It reminded me for the first time that it was OKto be brave for someone with anxiety like me.
The future was always scary, but with him, it wasnt, and I am eternally grateful.
Because Of You by Kelly Clarkson
Kelly Clarksons Because Of You. I was abused physically, verbally, emotionally. I still have the scars, so Im forever reminded of what happened.
Magic by Colbie Caillat
The song Magic by Colbie Caillat. It came up on shuffle on my iTunes when we first started dating. At the time, he was giving me a back/ shoulder massage. I played it all the time when I was with him, but of course , now, it merely brings me sadness.
If it ever comes up on the radio( sparingly, thank God ), I have to change the station.
Swing Life Away by Rise Against and Dont Matter by Akon
I cant even listen to some of the songs from my and Mikes breakup. I could probably list off at the least 10 sungs that I switch off of the radio as soon as I hear them, but the most significant ones would probably be Dont Matter or Swing Life Away. If I ever hear those, they dont get past the first few notes.
We did date for over seven years, and I feel as though these sungs are more painful than the memories themselves because the ballads remind me of the good times only. Its as if you hear the words person wanted to say to you at one point, and now, they would never say it to you that way again, and I believe those sentiments are harder than looking back on your own memories.
Break Your Heart by Taio Cruz
Break Your Heart by Taio Cruz was her ringback tone when we first started dating. Turns out, it was her theme song.
Do I Wanna Know? by Arctic Monkeys
Do I Wanna Know? by The Arctic Monkeys. Not a guy who violated my heart per se, but somebody who constantly attained me second guess myself and feel stupid.
But because its a banger of a song, Ive stimulated sure to associate good memories with it, so they couldnt take that from me.
Alive With The Glory Of Love by Say Anything and Genghis Khan by Miike Snow
I have an entire playlist I cant truly listen to, since it was the one we used at work, and we were co-workers. But the spire ones are Alive With The Glory Of Love by Say Anything, Genghis Khan by Miike Snow, or anything by Justin Motherf* cking Bieber.
From This Moment On by Shania Twain
From This Moment On, by Shania Twain. I was engaged. We lived together, had a venue, had a date set, I picked a dress the whole nine yards. We recorded a encompas of that anthem ourselves to use as our first dance. Well, I came home from work one day to him banging another chick in our bed.
Needless to say, I can never listen to that song again.
Make Me Fade by Vanic x K.Flay and Drown by Bring Me The Horizon
Make Me Fade by Vanic x K. Flay. We blasted that for an entire summer.
And Drown by Bring Me The Horizon to get me through the horrible aftermath.
Bluebird and Gravity by Sara Bareilles
Its funny because Bluebird is from the perspective of the person getting broken up with, but it most reminds me of the one breakup Ive ever initiated. I was dating my college boyfriend, and we continued long-distance post-grad. I use him as a crutch a lot; I wasnt constructing new friends because Id want to be home to talk to him on the phone, etc.
After a few months, I was sexually assaulted and abruptly violated it off with him. I couldnt face telling him, or anyone at the time , what happened. I knew he was still fully invested in the relationship, and I think that was what stimulated it the hardest:[ The breakup] was a shock to him, and he had no idea of the catalyst behind it. He thought he had done something wrong when, at the time, I was blaming myself for cheating.
To me, the song speaks to both parties: the difficulty in being broken up with( particularly when youre not expecting it ), but also how nasty it is to willingly run from being in a relationship that you were dependent on to facing the world on your own, particularly living in a new place with such an awful experience to cope with.
Gravity by Sara Bareilles[ reminds me of] my first, third, and fourth breakups. I dated him in high school on and off. He always made me so mad when Id think about him in theory, but where reference is messaged me freshman year of college, its like I forgot how awful our breakups had been. Its like Id been in a limbo since our last breakup( hold me without touch ).
We dated again that following summertime until our final breakup. Something always brings me back to you. It never takes too long.
You by Chris Young and Die A Happy Human by Thomas Rhett
My ex showed me[ You] and said he really liked it. The first time he played it, we were taking a shower together at his apartment back when things were all great and I was naive to his stupidity and lies. And any time I hear it, I just think of that moment.
The part[ in Die A Happy Man] starting with baby that red dress is my favorite part of the sung, and me and my ex always used to listen to it. He told me he memorized that component so he could sing it to me because he knew it was my favorite.
Home by Edward Sharpe& The Magnetic Zeros
Home, by Edward Sharpe& The Magnetic Zeroes. My ex and I got together for the first time right before I left the country for six months, and that anthem always constructed me think of him when I was there. Its just so sweet and beautiful, and the whole home is wherever Im with you idea really resonated with me in that situation.
Now, even though its been a long time, I burst into tears every time I hear the spoken part of the anthem. Just gets me right in the feels.
Harvest Moon by Neil Young
Harvest Moon by Neil Young. Mostly because Im a nostalgia-soaked manchild who has collected a scarce few emotional barnacles, and this one is biggest.
Here( In Your Arms) by Hellogoodbye
My high school boyfriend introduced me to the band Hellogoodbye, and I utterly love their music and occasionally try to listen to them again, but even after seven years, it still just reminds me of that shitty relationship, and I get sad/ mad and have to turn it off.
Better and The Blues by Guns N Roses
Better and The Blues by Guns N Roses. Insignificant, Ill Sneak Away, and Fairy Tales by Sarah Tollerson. These five are each sonic booms of feeling and form the soundtrack to an epic journey for me that very few people on the planet are familiar with and even fewer fully understand. I might write a book one day.
The music not only helped me understand it myself as it was happening and express complexities like nothing else could, but it was also vital to my processing of it all.
Burn by Usher
All of Ushers album specifically, the sung Burn.
I may or may not have had my heart shattered at the same time as this album “re coming out”. Lyrically, the anthems on this album only resonated with me and my feelings at the time.
New Rules by Dua Lipa
My first date with my ex, all we did was dance to Dua Lipa, and then, we eventually considered her live together. And then, her album “re coming out” during our roughest patch, and instead of[ producing] these songs about requiring this guy, she flipped the switching and rewrote the regulations on not only not requiring him, but him needing.
Runaway( U& I) by Galantis
This song brings me back to the end of senior year[ of college] when I would play it on recur to pregame and while out at parties. At this time, I was head over heels for a guy I was assure, and this song was just present all the time, everywhere, and whenever I thought about him.
Whenever I hear this song, I think about the good times I had that last month of senior year, especially senior week, but also the times I was happy and falling for this guy( which, of course, aimed right at graduation ).
What song remindsof an ex? Tell mein the comments.